What?!... so now I'm suppose to be a 'closer' friend just because you got me an expensive gift for my birthday?
Seriously, I didn't ask for anything from you. It's you who got all excited and bugged my best friends for my birthday plans and ideas on what to get me. I really thank you for the gift but seriously... I think you should take a hike because nothing is going to change.
#1. You were annoying, and you are still annoying me.
#2. You are not funny, so please try not to make pretend to be funny because I don't know how long I can pretend to laugh.
#3. I don't care if you are boyfriend material or what ever. I don't need\want one.
#4. I don't care if you can buy me expensive gifts, just don't expect me to fall head over heel over your materials.
#5. Get the hint for god's sake. You are disturbing when I work. Can't you see it in my face that I dislike talking to you? I hate to tell you to BUSS OFF every single time.
#6. You are in my negative zone, and I don't think there's anything you can do to not be in that zone for now. I really don't like you... thought you think other wise. I'm just putting up a face in the office because I have to. Everyone is superficial. Are you really that dumb?
And come one... don't invite yourself to my outing with my friends. Who cares if you know them... I really don't what you to be there, neither do my friends.
When someone says something, please don't insist that they are wrong. I really didn't want and did not celebrate my birthday. Don't give my friends a hard time and insist that I did celebrate my birthday. And even if I did, HELL you think you will be invited?
You really have to learn to piss off.
Wednesday, December 21, 2005
Tuesday, December 13, 2005
Go stuff your ego some where else
I know something is going on... but WHAT the F is it?!
I'm so sick of this already. I'm tired of acting like I'm ok. I'm tired of lying to myself. I'm sick. I'm very sick. But who the hell cares? Everyone is too busy and too insensitive to notice.
I'm tired to open my ear when I know I don't give a shit about what you are saying because I have got problems of my own. I'm tired of being our punching bag when your stress ball rolls off to some where. I'm tired of being your old socks. I'm tired of being your back up plan.
Go stuff your ego some where else. I can't stand it anymore!
I'm so sick of this already. I'm tired of acting like I'm ok. I'm tired of lying to myself. I'm sick. I'm very sick. But who the hell cares? Everyone is too busy and too insensitive to notice.
I'm tired to open my ear when I know I don't give a shit about what you are saying because I have got problems of my own. I'm tired of being our punching bag when your stress ball rolls off to some where. I'm tired of being your old socks. I'm tired of being your back up plan.
Go stuff your ego some where else. I can't stand it anymore!
Sunday, September 18, 2005
I wish I can just leave home
Sometimes I wish I can just leave home....Then again not like I cannot. It would be a financial burden staying by myself.
I can't stand staying with my family anymore. It's not that I don't love them, but I have come to this stage where everything they do annoy the shit out of me. I feel that it's a burden staying with them.
I'm really really old enough to take care of myself, but my dad still thinks I'm in kindergarten. He asks too much lame questions that only annoy me, my mom and sister as well. After a long day at work, I just want some peace and quiet but some how I get home and I have to answer to some really common sense questions. I love my dad, but he's killing me with his questions and his worries.
My mom is a working mom. She works hard and sometimes really late. My dad, my sis and me (but mostly my dad and I appreciate him for that) help out with the house work like hanging out, taking in and folding the clothes. Water the garden and keeping the house neat. Since I started working Mom rehired the freelance maid to clean the house so mom does not have to clean. So mom practically has no housework to do. But.... she complains when clothes are not folded or etcetera. Since Secondary 1, I have been the 'default' person to get blamed if housework are not done. Somehow I end up doing all of it because no matter how much I 'nag' my siblings to do, they just don’t. I will end up doing it. So the task over the years has been somehow morphed to my responsibility.
Sis is god damn lazy. She seldom help out with housework. And if she does, it's only because I have asked her or nagged her to do it. I have talked to her nicely a many times because nagging does not help me either. I know how it feels when someone is nagging; it's pain to the ears. I have asked her to cooperate. I know studying is tough, but I have been there. I was having been through so many of my important final exams back then but still managed to complete all the housework by myself without help from any of my siblings. I just asked her to share some responsibilities with me now, is that too much to ask? I guess in the end that was too much because she can't even iron her own school uniform on a weekly basis.
I have to take care of my sister's attitude too sometimes. Mom and Dad are too busy and lenient on her. Sometimes I find myself being the better parent because I know the situation better and I don't care if my sister hates me. Sometimes I just feel my parents are afraid that my sis is going to hate them if they are just a little strict. All I can say is that my parents are destroying my sister's future by not doing anything and letting her slack. Failing all of her elective subjects in this final secondary school year is not funny. Her finals are just 2 months away too!
Bro is studying out of the country so he's not here to contaminate the house. Thank god.
I feel a three and a half ton rock on my shoulders every time I get home. I know it's selfish to want to leave home and leave all this responsibilities. But I can't take it anymore. I need time for myself. I don't want all this responsibilities.
I want to come home to myself. I want to cook dinner only for myself. I want to only clean up after myself. I only want to do wash my own clothes. I want to only iron my own clothes. I want to only think about my future and not my whole family. I want to only think about myself.
I don’t need anyone nagging me to get housework done. I don’t need anyone waking me up in the mornings saying that it’s not healthy to sleep in late. (But I need the sleep with all that responsibility. You can’t expect me to wake up early and go to sleep late right?!) I don’t need anyone to tell me everything I already know! I want my weekends to myself! I want to sleep in late! I want to read a book alone!
I'm a selfish bitch to think like that. I know family is important, but I just can't take it anymore.
I can't stand staying with my family anymore. It's not that I don't love them, but I have come to this stage where everything they do annoy the shit out of me. I feel that it's a burden staying with them.
I'm really really old enough to take care of myself, but my dad still thinks I'm in kindergarten. He asks too much lame questions that only annoy me, my mom and sister as well. After a long day at work, I just want some peace and quiet but some how I get home and I have to answer to some really common sense questions. I love my dad, but he's killing me with his questions and his worries.
My mom is a working mom. She works hard and sometimes really late. My dad, my sis and me (but mostly my dad and I appreciate him for that) help out with the house work like hanging out, taking in and folding the clothes. Water the garden and keeping the house neat. Since I started working Mom rehired the freelance maid to clean the house so mom does not have to clean. So mom practically has no housework to do. But.... she complains when clothes are not folded or etcetera. Since Secondary 1, I have been the 'default' person to get blamed if housework are not done. Somehow I end up doing all of it because no matter how much I 'nag' my siblings to do, they just don’t. I will end up doing it. So the task over the years has been somehow morphed to my responsibility.
Sis is god damn lazy. She seldom help out with housework. And if she does, it's only because I have asked her or nagged her to do it. I have talked to her nicely a many times because nagging does not help me either. I know how it feels when someone is nagging; it's pain to the ears. I have asked her to cooperate. I know studying is tough, but I have been there. I was having been through so many of my important final exams back then but still managed to complete all the housework by myself without help from any of my siblings. I just asked her to share some responsibilities with me now, is that too much to ask? I guess in the end that was too much because she can't even iron her own school uniform on a weekly basis.
I have to take care of my sister's attitude too sometimes. Mom and Dad are too busy and lenient on her. Sometimes I find myself being the better parent because I know the situation better and I don't care if my sister hates me. Sometimes I just feel my parents are afraid that my sis is going to hate them if they are just a little strict. All I can say is that my parents are destroying my sister's future by not doing anything and letting her slack. Failing all of her elective subjects in this final secondary school year is not funny. Her finals are just 2 months away too!
Bro is studying out of the country so he's not here to contaminate the house. Thank god.
I feel a three and a half ton rock on my shoulders every time I get home. I know it's selfish to want to leave home and leave all this responsibilities. But I can't take it anymore. I need time for myself. I don't want all this responsibilities.
I want to come home to myself. I want to cook dinner only for myself. I want to only clean up after myself. I only want to do wash my own clothes. I want to only iron my own clothes. I want to only think about my future and not my whole family. I want to only think about myself.
I don’t need anyone nagging me to get housework done. I don’t need anyone waking me up in the mornings saying that it’s not healthy to sleep in late. (But I need the sleep with all that responsibility. You can’t expect me to wake up early and go to sleep late right?!) I don’t need anyone to tell me everything I already know! I want my weekends to myself! I want to sleep in late! I want to read a book alone!
I'm a selfish bitch to think like that. I know family is important, but I just can't take it anymore.
Friday, June 17, 2005
Stalking: Recognizing and Responding to the Problem
Stalking: Recognizing and Responding to the Problem
Until recently, the media usually only spotlighted stalking cases that involved high-profile entertainers and athletes. But stalking is not limited to the rich and famous. In reality, the majority of stalking victims are ordinary people.
According to the National Institute of Justice, “Any person who engages in a course of conduct directed at a specific person that places that person, or her family, in reasonable fear for their safety, is guilty of the crime of stalking.”
Prevalence and characteristics of stalking
- Experts estimate that more than 1 million women and nearly 500,000 men are stalked in the United States each year.
-Nearly one in 12 women and one in 45 men are stalked at least once in their lifetime.
- Seventy-eight percent of victims are women, and eighty-seven percent of offenders are men.
- Approximately 60 percent of female victims and 30 percent of male victims are stalked by current or former partners.
- It is estimated that 25 percent to 35 percent of stalking cases involve violence.
- Thirty-one percent of women stalked by a current or former partner have been sexually assaulted by that person.
Characteristics of the stalker
Stalkers come from all walks of life and socioeconomic backgrounds. Despite their demographic diversity, data shows that some characteristics are more common among stalkers than others:
- 87 percent are male
- 80 percent are white
- 50 percent are between the ages of 18 and 35
- most are of above-average intelligence
- most earn above-average incomes
- most suffer from a personality or mental disorder
Warning signs
There are several signs of stalking behavior, including:
- Persistent phone calls and contact despite being told not to contact in any form
- Sending the victim cards or gifts
- Disclosing to the victim personal information the offender has uncovered about him or her
- Disseminating personal information about the victim to others
- Monitoring the victim's Internet history and computer usage
- Waiting at the victim’s workplace or in her neighborhood
- Verbal or physical threats
- Sending messages: telephone messages, letters, e-mails, graffiti
- Sending romantic gifts as well as bizarre and frightening items
A list of behaviors is not always sufficient to determine whether one is being stalked, so trust your gut. If you feel a bit “creepy” about a gift or encounter, delve into what is making you feel that way. Remember: Real love never makes you feel creepy.
Three common types of stalkers
1. Simple obsessional. This is the most common type. The stalker is usually a male, and the victim an ex-spouse, ex-lover or former boss. This type of stalking usually results from the stalker's perceptions that the victim has mistreated him or her.
2. Love obsessional. The stalker is a casual acquaintance or even a stranger to the victim. This type often stalks a celebrity or public figure. The love-obsessed stalker begins to organize his life around harassment, to be noticed by the victim and make her aware of his existence.
3. Erotomania. This type falsely believes that the object of his obsession is secretly in love with him. He wrongly assumes that someone—usually a wife or lover—is keeping them from being together. The victims are commonly rich or famous or perceived as powerful.
What to do if you are being stalked
There is no easy answer to the nightmare of stalking. Most law enforcement agencies have antistalking personnel who are specially trained to help victims. The U.S. Department of Justice recommends the following preventive measures for anyone who feels threatened by a stalker:
- Install dead bolts or change locks.
- Install adequate outside lighting.
- Maintain an unlisted telephone number. If harassing phone calls persist, notify law enforcement.
- Treat any threats as legitimate and inform law enforcement.
- Vary travel routes and refrain from walking when possible.
- Inform a trusted neighbor or friend about the situation.
- If necessary, provide friends or neighbors with a photo or description of the individual and vehicles he may drive.
- If residing in an apartment with an on-site manager, provide the manager with a picture or description of the stalker.
- Have co-workers screen calls and visitors.
- When out, stay in public areas and try not to travel alone.
- Have quick access to critical telephone numbers and locations of law enforcement agencies.
- Have a plan to stay with friends when danger is perceived.
Remember that stalking is a crime and there is help available.
Until recently, the media usually only spotlighted stalking cases that involved high-profile entertainers and athletes. But stalking is not limited to the rich and famous. In reality, the majority of stalking victims are ordinary people.
According to the National Institute of Justice, “Any person who engages in a course of conduct directed at a specific person that places that person, or her family, in reasonable fear for their safety, is guilty of the crime of stalking.”
Prevalence and characteristics of stalking
- Experts estimate that more than 1 million women and nearly 500,000 men are stalked in the United States each year.
-Nearly one in 12 women and one in 45 men are stalked at least once in their lifetime.
- Seventy-eight percent of victims are women, and eighty-seven percent of offenders are men.
- Approximately 60 percent of female victims and 30 percent of male victims are stalked by current or former partners.
- It is estimated that 25 percent to 35 percent of stalking cases involve violence.
- Thirty-one percent of women stalked by a current or former partner have been sexually assaulted by that person.
Characteristics of the stalker
Stalkers come from all walks of life and socioeconomic backgrounds. Despite their demographic diversity, data shows that some characteristics are more common among stalkers than others:
- 87 percent are male
- 80 percent are white
- 50 percent are between the ages of 18 and 35
- most are of above-average intelligence
- most earn above-average incomes
- most suffer from a personality or mental disorder
Warning signs
There are several signs of stalking behavior, including:
- Persistent phone calls and contact despite being told not to contact in any form
- Sending the victim cards or gifts
- Disclosing to the victim personal information the offender has uncovered about him or her
- Disseminating personal information about the victim to others
- Monitoring the victim's Internet history and computer usage
- Waiting at the victim’s workplace or in her neighborhood
- Verbal or physical threats
- Sending messages: telephone messages, letters, e-mails, graffiti
- Sending romantic gifts as well as bizarre and frightening items
A list of behaviors is not always sufficient to determine whether one is being stalked, so trust your gut. If you feel a bit “creepy” about a gift or encounter, delve into what is making you feel that way. Remember: Real love never makes you feel creepy.
Three common types of stalkers
1. Simple obsessional. This is the most common type. The stalker is usually a male, and the victim an ex-spouse, ex-lover or former boss. This type of stalking usually results from the stalker's perceptions that the victim has mistreated him or her.
2. Love obsessional. The stalker is a casual acquaintance or even a stranger to the victim. This type often stalks a celebrity or public figure. The love-obsessed stalker begins to organize his life around harassment, to be noticed by the victim and make her aware of his existence.
3. Erotomania. This type falsely believes that the object of his obsession is secretly in love with him. He wrongly assumes that someone—usually a wife or lover—is keeping them from being together. The victims are commonly rich or famous or perceived as powerful.
What to do if you are being stalked
There is no easy answer to the nightmare of stalking. Most law enforcement agencies have antistalking personnel who are specially trained to help victims. The U.S. Department of Justice recommends the following preventive measures for anyone who feels threatened by a stalker:
- Install dead bolts or change locks.
- Install adequate outside lighting.
- Maintain an unlisted telephone number. If harassing phone calls persist, notify law enforcement.
- Treat any threats as legitimate and inform law enforcement.
- Vary travel routes and refrain from walking when possible.
- Inform a trusted neighbor or friend about the situation.
- If necessary, provide friends or neighbors with a photo or description of the individual and vehicles he may drive.
- If residing in an apartment with an on-site manager, provide the manager with a picture or description of the stalker.
- Have co-workers screen calls and visitors.
- When out, stay in public areas and try not to travel alone.
- Have quick access to critical telephone numbers and locations of law enforcement agencies.
- Have a plan to stay with friends when danger is perceived.
Remember that stalking is a crime and there is help available.
Monday, June 06, 2005
10 DEADLY Mistakes Guys Make During And After A Breakup
"10 DEADLY Mistakes Guys Make During And After A Breakup"
By Marius Panzarella. Personal comments are in italics.
Here's a list of what NOT to do if your girlfriend is breaking up with you.
1) Do NOT fight with her. Fighting ALWAYS creates tension and kills attraction. Fighting with a woman is useless. Even if you win the argument, you will still lose the war.
Marius got it damn right. You are trying to win her heart back, not making her despise you. The key here is mutual understanding. Give more and her heart is for you to take.
2) Do NOT try to use logic to show her why she should come back to you. Love is based on FEELINGS, not logic. No matter how brilliant your logic is, she's still going to leave you.
Yep, I totally agree.
3) Do NOT reassure your ex that you have "changed" so things will be "different from now on". It's like trying to bail water out of a sinking boat. It won't work. The hole is still there and your words are not going to mend it.
If someone can change for you, he\she can change for another person anytime. I believe being ourselves is very important. I personally will not 'want' anyone who is not himself. I won't change for anyone except myself, so I don't expect anyone to change for me. I think everyone should keep that in mind. You could loose you partner, your family and friends anytime, but you have yourself to keep.
4) Do NOT keep telling her you love her. She won't care. All a woman cares about is how much SHE loves YOU...not the other way around!
Yep, especially telling him\her how much you love them during\after the breakup. It's like saying it just to save the relationship. One will make the situation even worst saying it during\after the breakup. If you really love the person, save the ego and just say it while you both really are in love. If you didn't say it, it just means that you didn't love her anyway so why even say it after the breakup?
5) Do NOT beg her to come back. The more you beg, the more she will ignore you.
Not only will he\she ignore you, I think anyone in this position will feel 'stressed out' and annoyed.
6) Do NOT try to make her feel guilty about leaving you. (Examples: "I can't work without you." and "Don't break up with me during exam period...") It won't work. It will only make her DREAD being with you even more.
That's like a loser’s excuse don't you think? Exams or no exams, work or no work the relationship will end anyway. "I can't work without you." ? What a turn off. I don't want a useless person who can't survive on his own.
7) Do not act depressed so they will feel bad for you. Sympathy does NOT equal ATTRACTION!
Yes that's right. Unless you are a pet dog, then go act depressed. At least your ex will come back in pity and petting your head.
8) Do NOT talk to her friends to win their support. All she cares is how SHE fees about you. Even if her friends love you, they can't make her love you forever. External pressure never lasts longer. If your girl decides to stay with you, her motivation has to come from WITHIN.
It's worst if her friend doesn’t like you but you think they do.
9) Do NOT spend money on gifts and flowers for her. You can't buy her heart back with money.
You can't buy her heart back with money.
10) Do NOT push her into getting back with you. The more you push, the more she will PULL AWAY.
More is less. Less is more.
By Marius Panzarella. Personal comments are in italics.
Here's a list of what NOT to do if your girlfriend is breaking up with you.
1) Do NOT fight with her. Fighting ALWAYS creates tension and kills attraction. Fighting with a woman is useless. Even if you win the argument, you will still lose the war.
Marius got it damn right. You are trying to win her heart back, not making her despise you. The key here is mutual understanding. Give more and her heart is for you to take.
2) Do NOT try to use logic to show her why she should come back to you. Love is based on FEELINGS, not logic. No matter how brilliant your logic is, she's still going to leave you.
Yep, I totally agree.
3) Do NOT reassure your ex that you have "changed" so things will be "different from now on". It's like trying to bail water out of a sinking boat. It won't work. The hole is still there and your words are not going to mend it.
If someone can change for you, he\she can change for another person anytime. I believe being ourselves is very important. I personally will not 'want' anyone who is not himself. I won't change for anyone except myself, so I don't expect anyone to change for me. I think everyone should keep that in mind. You could loose you partner, your family and friends anytime, but you have yourself to keep.
4) Do NOT keep telling her you love her. She won't care. All a woman cares about is how much SHE loves YOU...not the other way around!
Yep, especially telling him\her how much you love them during\after the breakup. It's like saying it just to save the relationship. One will make the situation even worst saying it during\after the breakup. If you really love the person, save the ego and just say it while you both really are in love. If you didn't say it, it just means that you didn't love her anyway so why even say it after the breakup?
5) Do NOT beg her to come back. The more you beg, the more she will ignore you.
Not only will he\she ignore you, I think anyone in this position will feel 'stressed out' and annoyed.
6) Do NOT try to make her feel guilty about leaving you. (Examples: "I can't work without you." and "Don't break up with me during exam period...") It won't work. It will only make her DREAD being with you even more.
That's like a loser’s excuse don't you think? Exams or no exams, work or no work the relationship will end anyway. "I can't work without you." ? What a turn off. I don't want a useless person who can't survive on his own.
7) Do not act depressed so they will feel bad for you. Sympathy does NOT equal ATTRACTION!
Yes that's right. Unless you are a pet dog, then go act depressed. At least your ex will come back in pity and petting your head.
8) Do NOT talk to her friends to win their support. All she cares is how SHE fees about you. Even if her friends love you, they can't make her love you forever. External pressure never lasts longer. If your girl decides to stay with you, her motivation has to come from WITHIN.
It's worst if her friend doesn’t like you but you think they do.
9) Do NOT spend money on gifts and flowers for her. You can't buy her heart back with money.
You can't buy her heart back with money.
10) Do NOT push her into getting back with you. The more you push, the more she will PULL AWAY.
More is less. Less is more.
Wednesday, June 01, 2005
Why You Should Never Say 'Sex'
Why You Should Never Say 'Sex'
Author: Marius Panzarella
You should ALWAYS refer to sex as something else, such as "love-making" or "sleeping together". Why? Because the term "sex" is not very intimate, and women enjoy intimatcy when it comes to sex. To a woman, sex is not just about the physical aspects of having sex. There's a whole emotional side to it as well. They enjoy making love to a man they like, and sleeping on his arm after. By using the word "sex" to describe intercourse, you're really reducing the awesome emotional experience of love-making into a purely physical act.
So from now on, it's...
- "I want to make love to you" instead of "I want to have sex with you."
- "Yeah...we slept together" instead of "Yeah...we used to have sex together."
- "I love making love to you" instead of "I love having sex with you."
- "Remember the first time we made love?" instead of "Remember the first time we had sex?"
And so on...
Author: Marius Panzarella
You should ALWAYS refer to sex as something else, such as "love-making" or "sleeping together". Why? Because the term "sex" is not very intimate, and women enjoy intimatcy when it comes to sex. To a woman, sex is not just about the physical aspects of having sex. There's a whole emotional side to it as well. They enjoy making love to a man they like, and sleeping on his arm after. By using the word "sex" to describe intercourse, you're really reducing the awesome emotional experience of love-making into a purely physical act.
So from now on, it's...
- "I want to make love to you" instead of "I want to have sex with you."
- "Yeah...we slept together" instead of "Yeah...we used to have sex together."
- "I love making love to you" instead of "I love having sex with you."
- "Remember the first time we made love?" instead of "Remember the first time we had sex?"
And so on...
Saturday, May 28, 2005
The buddy? The boyfriend? or the faade?
Author: Unknown
Guys, men, boys they all mean the same to a certain extend. Then, there are some who are suitable to be, just friends with. I call them the buddy type. They shop, gossip and watch movies with you. We talk about our men with them and they would totally listen and comment accordingly. I'm sure you have some guy friends like that.
It's cool to have men as your best buddies simply because they have a whole different perceptive of everything. Not to say that girl friends are not cool - don't get me wrong. It's just that men rationalize and look at things from a different angle. It's good to look at things from both side of the coin, isn't it?
Plus, it's logical to get advice about men from a man. It's rather refreshing sometimes.
If they are so cool and understanding, then how come he's just a friend? He's not gay either. Ha ha ha, this is the tricky bit. Some men, we are just not attracted to "that way". No chemistry and no butterfly in your stomach feeling kind of man. No
sexual attraction and no physical tension. Funny, but I can't explain it myself.
Now, here comes the type of man who gives you all the above kind of feeling. It's the boyfriend material. How would you know? Well I always believe in a woman's instincts. It's very powerful, so use it! These are the men whom you would do anything for. He makes you feel special because there is some unexplainable connection between you and him. There's love.
The major difference between a male buddy and a boyfriend is that, boyfriends can make you feel jealous for no substantial reason. Caught him looking at another girl and you would throw tantrum, but if your male buddy does that, you would be totally supportive about it.
There is also another type, I call it The Faade - you both are just friends but deep inside, you are actually "mad" about him but have no guts what so ever to confess. This is the toughest category. Confess and risk losing a friend? Conceal and have
your heart broken every time he talks about another girl he fancies? Both ways you lose.
If you are the bold type, I would say confess. At least you will feel relieved knowing that he knows, on top of that, the ball is now in his court. If he doesn't feel the same about you, at least you know it for sure. I strongly suggest you move on with your life after the awkward confession session. Look up, be strong and move on, girls. On the contrary, I would personally avoid this option - I'll totally chicken out.
So, which type of men do you have in your life? The buddy? The boyfriend? or the faade? It's difficult to categorize them in this manner because some of them can be a mixture of almost everything, creating an unidentified hybrid. But one thing's for sure -our relationship and interaction with men is inevitable. Who and what type of friendship you wish to establish with them, is completely entirely up to you - as long as you know where to draw the line.
Guys, men, boys they all mean the same to a certain extend. Then, there are some who are suitable to be, just friends with. I call them the buddy type. They shop, gossip and watch movies with you. We talk about our men with them and they would totally listen and comment accordingly. I'm sure you have some guy friends like that.
It's cool to have men as your best buddies simply because they have a whole different perceptive of everything. Not to say that girl friends are not cool - don't get me wrong. It's just that men rationalize and look at things from a different angle. It's good to look at things from both side of the coin, isn't it?
Plus, it's logical to get advice about men from a man. It's rather refreshing sometimes.
If they are so cool and understanding, then how come he's just a friend? He's not gay either. Ha ha ha, this is the tricky bit. Some men, we are just not attracted to "that way". No chemistry and no butterfly in your stomach feeling kind of man. No
sexual attraction and no physical tension. Funny, but I can't explain it myself.
Now, here comes the type of man who gives you all the above kind of feeling. It's the boyfriend material. How would you know? Well I always believe in a woman's instincts. It's very powerful, so use it! These are the men whom you would do anything for. He makes you feel special because there is some unexplainable connection between you and him. There's love.
The major difference between a male buddy and a boyfriend is that, boyfriends can make you feel jealous for no substantial reason. Caught him looking at another girl and you would throw tantrum, but if your male buddy does that, you would be totally supportive about it.
There is also another type, I call it The Faade - you both are just friends but deep inside, you are actually "mad" about him but have no guts what so ever to confess. This is the toughest category. Confess and risk losing a friend? Conceal and have
your heart broken every time he talks about another girl he fancies? Both ways you lose.
If you are the bold type, I would say confess. At least you will feel relieved knowing that he knows, on top of that, the ball is now in his court. If he doesn't feel the same about you, at least you know it for sure. I strongly suggest you move on with your life after the awkward confession session. Look up, be strong and move on, girls. On the contrary, I would personally avoid this option - I'll totally chicken out.
So, which type of men do you have in your life? The buddy? The boyfriend? or the faade? It's difficult to categorize them in this manner because some of them can be a mixture of almost everything, creating an unidentified hybrid. But one thing's for sure -our relationship and interaction with men is inevitable. Who and what type of friendship you wish to establish with them, is completely entirely up to you - as long as you know where to draw the line.
Wednesday, May 18, 2005
Malaysia Not Always Boleh
Not Always Boleh
by Marina Mahathir (If you didn't already know, she Dr.Mahathir's daugther)
AS we reach our 46th birthday and cries of "Malaysia Boleh" ring out,we should really reflect on this a bit. I am one of those who always find these constant shouts of "Malaysia Boleh" a bit tiresome.
Not to be a spoilsport or anything, it's just that sometimes our focus on what we boleh (can) seems rather shallow.
I have great admiration for Malaysians who can sail solo around
the world, climb Everest, explore Antarctica and brave the English
Channel. These are truly great feats and the glory achieved by them reflects on us, and motivates others to try and do similar things.
What I have some problem with are the types of Malaysia Boleh feats that have to do with creating the longest popiah, the most number of teh tarik pulls, the most number of sticks of satay eaten, etc. No
doubt everyone wants their 15 minutes of fame, but after that,...what?
Will the person who ate the most number of durians ever be featured in Hari Ini dalam Sejarah?
As we all scramble to get into some book of records for things we boleh do, I wonder if we ever reflect on the things we tak boleh (cannot) do? Here is a partial list, in no particular order:
We tak boleh talk about many things because they are deemed too sensitive for some unknown people's ears. Thus, there are so many things swept under the carpet now that we can hardly walk without tripping.
We tak boleh complain about how some people in authority behave.
We tak boleh show affection to our loved ones in public because some people think it's obscene.
The women among us tak boleh feel safe in public because if something happens to us, it's always our fault.
We tak boleh be trusted to decide for ourselves whether a movie is good or bad.
We women tak boleh look at pictures of women's bodies in women's magazines; they have to be blacked out.
Young people tak boleh be given information about the many bad things that could happen to them even though this could save their lives.
Universities tak boleh be left with more women students because this
may lead to a very empowered population of women. And what's more
they may start demanding that women be given vice-chancellor posts!
We tak boleh ask why the authorities have some ruling or other because then they may actually have to think of a good reason for them.
We tak boleh, tak boleh, tak boleh talk about religion even though sometimes the implementation of religious rulings can make our lives miserable.
We tak boleh complain when cars are triple parked on Fridays because, hey, what is a human law when they're breaking it to commune with God?
We tak boleh be sure anything we do will be judged on its own merits; we must get some VIP to help us.
We tak boleh excel in many things, including sports, because someone will tell us why we tak boleh do it (too difficult, not nice, not feminine, too much work, no money in it, etc).
We tak boleh point out the contradictions in our society because it's, well, embarrassing (like, how come we're so religious and so superstitious at the same time?).
We tak boleh teach our kids to think because then they may ask us too many questions.
We tak boleh act as if we would like to think about things too, and then give our opinion.
We tak boleh trust our young people even though one day, whether we like it or not, they will take over the country (unless we turn them into clones of us of course).
We tak boleh deny the fact that Siti Nurhaliza is a lot more influential than most politicians (who else can sell out a lipstick by just mentioning it?). But then Siti tak boleh make our lives miserable.
We tak boleh talk back, unless we couch it in polite terms. Never mind that the person we want to talk back to has been very rude.
Every day it seems we are encouraged to do things to prove we are the best, biggest, brightest. But rarely are we ever encouraged to be thinking and compassionate human beings with opinions of our own, especially if those opinions are different from the norm. Are we to show Malaysia Boleh only in harmless non-threatening ways even though these often have no long-term benefit? Or should we really be challenging ourselves in our minds and hearts?
by Marina Mahathir (If you didn't already know, she Dr.Mahathir's daugther)
AS we reach our 46th birthday and cries of "Malaysia Boleh" ring out,we should really reflect on this a bit. I am one of those who always find these constant shouts of "Malaysia Boleh" a bit tiresome.
Not to be a spoilsport or anything, it's just that sometimes our focus on what we boleh (can) seems rather shallow.
I have great admiration for Malaysians who can sail solo around
the world, climb Everest, explore Antarctica and brave the English
Channel. These are truly great feats and the glory achieved by them reflects on us, and motivates others to try and do similar things.
What I have some problem with are the types of Malaysia Boleh feats that have to do with creating the longest popiah, the most number of teh tarik pulls, the most number of sticks of satay eaten, etc. No
doubt everyone wants their 15 minutes of fame, but after that,...what?
Will the person who ate the most number of durians ever be featured in Hari Ini dalam Sejarah?
As we all scramble to get into some book of records for things we boleh do, I wonder if we ever reflect on the things we tak boleh (cannot) do? Here is a partial list, in no particular order:
We tak boleh talk about many things because they are deemed too sensitive for some unknown people's ears. Thus, there are so many things swept under the carpet now that we can hardly walk without tripping.
We tak boleh complain about how some people in authority behave.
We tak boleh show affection to our loved ones in public because some people think it's obscene.
The women among us tak boleh feel safe in public because if something happens to us, it's always our fault.
We tak boleh be trusted to decide for ourselves whether a movie is good or bad.
We women tak boleh look at pictures of women's bodies in women's magazines; they have to be blacked out.
Young people tak boleh be given information about the many bad things that could happen to them even though this could save their lives.
Universities tak boleh be left with more women students because this
may lead to a very empowered population of women. And what's more
they may start demanding that women be given vice-chancellor posts!
We tak boleh ask why the authorities have some ruling or other because then they may actually have to think of a good reason for them.
We tak boleh, tak boleh, tak boleh talk about religion even though sometimes the implementation of religious rulings can make our lives miserable.
We tak boleh complain when cars are triple parked on Fridays because, hey, what is a human law when they're breaking it to commune with God?
We tak boleh be sure anything we do will be judged on its own merits; we must get some VIP to help us.
We tak boleh excel in many things, including sports, because someone will tell us why we tak boleh do it (too difficult, not nice, not feminine, too much work, no money in it, etc).
We tak boleh point out the contradictions in our society because it's, well, embarrassing (like, how come we're so religious and so superstitious at the same time?).
We tak boleh teach our kids to think because then they may ask us too many questions.
We tak boleh act as if we would like to think about things too, and then give our opinion.
We tak boleh trust our young people even though one day, whether we like it or not, they will take over the country (unless we turn them into clones of us of course).
We tak boleh deny the fact that Siti Nurhaliza is a lot more influential than most politicians (who else can sell out a lipstick by just mentioning it?). But then Siti tak boleh make our lives miserable.
We tak boleh talk back, unless we couch it in polite terms. Never mind that the person we want to talk back to has been very rude.
Every day it seems we are encouraged to do things to prove we are the best, biggest, brightest. But rarely are we ever encouraged to be thinking and compassionate human beings with opinions of our own, especially if those opinions are different from the norm. Are we to show Malaysia Boleh only in harmless non-threatening ways even though these often have no long-term benefit? Or should we really be challenging ourselves in our minds and hearts?
Sunday, May 15, 2005
If your girlfriend has left you for another guy
Got something thru email again that I found quite interesting. As a female, i quite agree with what this guy gave to say.
1) If your girlfriend has left you for another guy, don't blame the other guy for stealing her. It's YOUR own fault for losing her. If she was REALLY attracted to you, NOBODY could have stolen her away from you.
2) If women always keep saying you are a "friend", don't whine about it. It's YOUR own fault for not developing any chemistry with women.
3) If you never go out and meet women, then don't complain about not having a girlfriend. It's your own fault for not expanding your social circle.
4) If you can't hold a conversation, don't whine about your shyness. PRACTICE your conversation skills.
5) If you don't know how to attract women, then LEARN.
1) If your girlfriend has left you for another guy, don't blame the other guy for stealing her. It's YOUR own fault for losing her. If she was REALLY attracted to you, NOBODY could have stolen her away from you.
2) If women always keep saying you are a "friend", don't whine about it. It's YOUR own fault for not developing any chemistry with women.
3) If you never go out and meet women, then don't complain about not having a girlfriend. It's your own fault for not expanding your social circle.
4) If you can't hold a conversation, don't whine about your shyness. PRACTICE your conversation skills.
5) If you don't know how to attract women, then LEARN.
Thursday, May 12, 2005
Discover The Power of Forgiveness
Note: All the below are not writen by me. I got this in a pdf file with no author name on it. Do let me know if you know who wrote this.
What do you do when somebody hurts you? Do you want to hurt him back or do you hold it against that person for the rest of your life? If you answer yes to these questions, know that you are like most people.
To forgive is something that is alien to most people. Why don't people forgive readily?
Here's why, because it is easier to hate than to forgive. Some people think to forgive is a sign of weakness, but let me tell you, it is not. To forgive takes courage and extra effort.
What is forgiveness? It is a gift from a generous heart. Forgiveness is not a reward. It is not something that you give to someone based on his good behavior. It is something that you give to a person irrespective of whether he has deserved it or
not. Forgiveness is also not based on whether the person has asked for forgiveness.
Also know this. Forgiveness is not an event, which starts and concludes when you say the words, "I forgive you". Forgiveness is an act and a process, which often takes time. The deeper your hurt the longer it usually takes to completely forgive. It is an act because it is not just the words you say but it is your actions which will show if you've really forgiven.
A fine example of someone who embodies true forgiveness is former South African president Nelson Mandela. Mandela was imprisoned by the former all white South African government for 27 years. Upon his release Mandela surprised the whole world when he showed no bitterness towards his jailers. That is truly remarkable.
Why is it necessary to forgive? Forgiveness releases you from the burden of bitterness and hate. It takes enormous energy to hate and to keep that hate in place. Forgiveness brings freedom whereas revenge is neither sweet nor gratifying, its just a hollow feeling. Hate puts unnecessary stress on your body.
It is a well-known fact, proven by numerous studies, that bitterness and hate can actually make you sick. A great number of people in the world don't really belong in a hospital, because the root of their problem is not physical but is mental. The moment they forgive and let go of their hate they will start to get well.
There is another reason why you need to forgive. If you don't forgive you actually prevent blessings from flowing to you. The Bible says that before you pray for anything first forgive those who wronged you, and then your Father in heaven will forgive you your wrongs.
So there you can see that blessings are closely connected to your forgiving others. I have personal experience of this. I used to be very cynical about life and didn't forgive easily. At the time I also struggled in every area of my life. Things just didn't seem to work out for me. It is as if everything that could go wrong; always went wrong. That was until somebody told me to take a look at my attitude.
And when I forgave those who wronged me and changed my attitude, everything else changed. It didn't happen overnight. It took a while, but I could see and feel the difference.
Now you may ask how do you know when you've really forgiven someone? Here's the key.
If after you've forgiven that person you still experience negative sting whenever you think of him or her, it means you still have work to do. If however you don't have negative feelings towards that person it means you are free.
Are things not working out in your life, despite you are doing all the "right" things? Is it possible that you have un-forgiveness in your heart? It is certainly something to think about!
What do you do when somebody hurts you? Do you want to hurt him back or do you hold it against that person for the rest of your life? If you answer yes to these questions, know that you are like most people.
To forgive is something that is alien to most people. Why don't people forgive readily?
Here's why, because it is easier to hate than to forgive. Some people think to forgive is a sign of weakness, but let me tell you, it is not. To forgive takes courage and extra effort.
What is forgiveness? It is a gift from a generous heart. Forgiveness is not a reward. It is not something that you give to someone based on his good behavior. It is something that you give to a person irrespective of whether he has deserved it or
not. Forgiveness is also not based on whether the person has asked for forgiveness.
Also know this. Forgiveness is not an event, which starts and concludes when you say the words, "I forgive you". Forgiveness is an act and a process, which often takes time. The deeper your hurt the longer it usually takes to completely forgive. It is an act because it is not just the words you say but it is your actions which will show if you've really forgiven.
A fine example of someone who embodies true forgiveness is former South African president Nelson Mandela. Mandela was imprisoned by the former all white South African government for 27 years. Upon his release Mandela surprised the whole world when he showed no bitterness towards his jailers. That is truly remarkable.
Why is it necessary to forgive? Forgiveness releases you from the burden of bitterness and hate. It takes enormous energy to hate and to keep that hate in place. Forgiveness brings freedom whereas revenge is neither sweet nor gratifying, its just a hollow feeling. Hate puts unnecessary stress on your body.
It is a well-known fact, proven by numerous studies, that bitterness and hate can actually make you sick. A great number of people in the world don't really belong in a hospital, because the root of their problem is not physical but is mental. The moment they forgive and let go of their hate they will start to get well.
There is another reason why you need to forgive. If you don't forgive you actually prevent blessings from flowing to you. The Bible says that before you pray for anything first forgive those who wronged you, and then your Father in heaven will forgive you your wrongs.
So there you can see that blessings are closely connected to your forgiving others. I have personal experience of this. I used to be very cynical about life and didn't forgive easily. At the time I also struggled in every area of my life. Things just didn't seem to work out for me. It is as if everything that could go wrong; always went wrong. That was until somebody told me to take a look at my attitude.
And when I forgave those who wronged me and changed my attitude, everything else changed. It didn't happen overnight. It took a while, but I could see and feel the difference.
Now you may ask how do you know when you've really forgiven someone? Here's the key.
If after you've forgiven that person you still experience negative sting whenever you think of him or her, it means you still have work to do. If however you don't have negative feelings towards that person it means you are free.
Are things not working out in your life, despite you are doing all the "right" things? Is it possible that you have un-forgiveness in your heart? It is certainly something to think about!
Wednesday, May 11, 2005
he can't let go of her
You know, it's so ironic. One of my close buddies' rang me up in last night
to have a heart to heart talk. He broke up with his (at that time) girlfriend for about 3 months already. The problem is, he can't let go of her.
He really reminded me of my ex. You see, we were once so close. We know of each others doings, actions and plans every god damn single day. We talk to each other without fail every bloody night before we actually go to sleep. We do things together, go on holidays together, have luncheons and dinner together and all the other stuff a normal couple would do. But then suddenly all this changes when we broke up.
No more nightly 'obligation' to call your other half. No need to 'report to the headmaster' (headmaster here refers to your other half) every action you are planning to do. No need to think of how your other half would feel if you wanted to hang out alone or with your own friends without his presence. Don't need to sacrifice time to teach your idiotic other half his work and definitely don't have to take any more responsibility of his stupidity and failure. Don't you feel much better with all that burden off your shoulders? It's no wonder why it didn't take me long to get on with my sweet life.
The big question is "Why can't your ex(es) do the same?" I don't thinkI a good girlfriend after all.
Anyway, I don't think my buddy and my ex understand the meaning of a "breakup". I know were all very close to our other half during the relationship, but why can't they understand that it's over.
Sometimes they would just give really lame excuses like "we are not a couple anymore but we are still friends right?" Yes, I agree with that statement but does a friend try to get in your way when you are planning\going on a date\outing with another male acquaintance? A friend also doesn't call you and check on you. A friend doesn't call you every single bloody day. And definitely a friend doesn't invite you over to sleep in a same bed with him\her when you have a bed of your own! There's no ego thing going on here because it's just not something that a normal friend would do. Hemust have been is such an ignoramus to ask in front of my friends and then to think it was ego. How dumb can one be?
This kind of ex(es) are just plain annoying. Why can't they understand? What can we all do to get them to fuck off?
I told my buddy what I thought. Yes, I was the bitch to tell him that he annoying the shit out of his ex. And if he don't know how to draw the line, his ex will just be like me. I'm not sorry that I told him that, I don't feel guilty by telling him that. It's the truth and he has to hear it from someone.
to have a heart to heart talk. He broke up with his (at that time) girlfriend for about 3 months already. The problem is, he can't let go of her.
He really reminded me of my ex. You see, we were once so close. We know of each others doings, actions and plans every god damn single day. We talk to each other without fail every bloody night before we actually go to sleep. We do things together, go on holidays together, have luncheons and dinner together and all the other stuff a normal couple would do. But then suddenly all this changes when we broke up.
No more nightly 'obligation' to call your other half. No need to 'report to the headmaster' (headmaster here refers to your other half) every action you are planning to do. No need to think of how your other half would feel if you wanted to hang out alone or with your own friends without his presence. Don't need to sacrifice time to teach your idiotic other half his work and definitely don't have to take any more responsibility of his stupidity and failure. Don't you feel much better with all that burden off your shoulders? It's no wonder why it didn't take me long to get on with my sweet life.
The big question is "Why can't your ex(es) do the same?" I don't think
Anyway, I don't think my buddy and my ex understand the meaning of a "breakup". I know were all very close to our other half during the relationship, but why can't they understand that it's over.
Sometimes they would just give really lame excuses like "we are not a couple anymore but we are still friends right?" Yes, I agree with that statement but does a friend try to get in your way when you are planning\going on a date\outing with another male acquaintance? A friend also doesn't call you and check on you. A friend doesn't call you every single bloody day. And definitely a friend doesn't invite you over to sleep in a same bed with him\her when you have a bed of your own! There's no ego thing going on here because it's just not something that a normal friend would do. He
This kind of ex(es) are just plain annoying. Why can't they understand? What can we all do to get them to fuck off?
I told my buddy what I thought. Yes, I was the bitch to tell him that he annoying the shit out of his ex. And if he don't know how to draw the line, his ex will just be like me. I'm not sorry that I told him that, I don't feel guilty by telling him that. It's the truth and he has to hear it from someone.
Monday, May 09, 2005
when the world knows about your personal blog
It's so damn sad when everyone knows that you have a personal blog. Every god damn Tom, Dick and Harry would ask your link. And if the URL do not come out from your very own mouth, they will go high and low searching for it.
Leaving bits and trail of information on IM profiles are very dangerous. Once, there was this really annoying dude that looked though all my IM details to get hints of my blog. And darnnn, he found it. Once upon a time I used to tell the whole world about it. But now it's so damn hard to clean up my own shits.
Some tried searching for my nick, for my name, and stuff like that. And yeah, it's so god damn easy with search engines these days.
Some tries looking through blogger networks and blog rings. I have blogger friends, where we enjoy reading each others blog (but the idea of meeting each other was a negative, sometimes it's just best not to 'know' each other in person) and link each other. Well, when I link you, and you link me, some how we all get noticed in some way.
Well having too much publicity is not too bad, but having too much publicity amoung people who knows you (and not necessary you know them) is really bad. You'll never know whose tail you might step on or which organization might sue you.
Sometimes when I blog my ideas, my analysis, my shits, some people....even the closest to you... would just steal them call them of as their own ideas and evaluation. Sometimes they just do it right in front of my face. That's just hurtful man, but seriously, I don't think I would care more after that. You are just insulting your own intellegence anyway.
I don't think I am being sensitive about this kind of things. It's plagiarizing my thoughts. You steal them, you announce to the whole world that it was your own (and yes, the world believed it was your idea because I was stupid enough just to tell you and not the world), you implement it, too bad you failed.
I was keen so carry out my idea at first. But then, narrrrr. I don't think I have got the 'umph' anymore. I'm so sad at see you fail, but a part of me is laughing at you. So sorry, but haha. I guess I'm this kind of person. I guess I'm just a two faced snake in the end. But hey, I guess you thought me that right. After all, I only learn from what I see.
The rest that aren't smart to take idea off my blog are just plain annoying stalkers. Saying "Hey I read your post on ...bla bla" to strike a conversation every morning is plain boring. Don't you have something more intelligent to say? I wonder if the words 'Good Morning' registers in your brain.
I just can't stand these people. If talking to you every morning isn't good enough, they have to call, sms and email you. And they questions they ask.... It's a waste if they don't be interviewers, reporters and interrogators. Yeeasss.
Leaving bits and trail of information on IM profiles are very dangerous. Once, there was this really annoying dude that looked though all my IM details to get hints of my blog. And darnnn, he found it. Once upon a time I used to tell the whole world about it. But now it's so damn hard to clean up my own shits.
Some tried searching for my nick, for my name, and stuff like that. And yeah, it's so god damn easy with search engines these days.
Some tries looking through blogger networks and blog rings. I have blogger friends, where we enjoy reading each others blog (but the idea of meeting each other was a negative, sometimes it's just best not to 'know' each other in person) and link each other. Well, when I link you, and you link me, some how we all get noticed in some way.
Well having too much publicity is not too bad, but having too much publicity amoung people who knows you (and not necessary you know them) is really bad. You'll never know whose tail you might step on or which organization might sue you.
Sometimes when I blog my ideas, my analysis, my shits, some people....even the closest to you... would just steal them call them of as their own ideas and evaluation. Sometimes they just do it right in front of my face. That's just hurtful man, but seriously, I don't think I would care more after that. You are just insulting your own intellegence anyway.
I don't think I am being sensitive about this kind of things. It's plagiarizing my thoughts. You steal them, you announce to the whole world that it was your own (and yes, the world believed it was your idea because I was stupid enough just to tell you and not the world), you implement it, too bad you failed.
I was keen so carry out my idea at first. But then, narrrrr. I don't think I have got the 'umph' anymore. I'm so sad at see you fail, but a part of me is laughing at you. So sorry, but haha. I guess I'm this kind of person. I guess I'm just a two faced snake in the end. But hey, I guess you thought me that right. After all, I only learn from what I see.
The rest that aren't smart to take idea off my blog are just plain annoying stalkers. Saying "Hey I read your post on ...bla bla" to strike a conversation every morning is plain boring. Don't you have something more intelligent to say? I wonder if the words 'Good Morning' registers in your brain.
I just can't stand these people. If talking to you every morning isn't good enough, they have to call, sms and email you. And they questions they ask.... It's a waste if they don't be interviewers, reporters and interrogators. Yeeasss.
Sunday, May 08, 2005
Does Your Sex Drive Need a Boost?
Did you know that the average person has sex only once a week? Surprised? When was the last time you were really in the mood? Take this 10-question quiz to find out if your sexual batteries need a boost. You might be surprised at your results!
Go here http://quiz.ivillage.com/health/tests/sexdrive.htm
Go here http://quiz.ivillage.com/health/tests/sexdrive.htm
Monday, May 02, 2005
Do Men Value Virginity Anymore?
By Andy Erdman writen at IVillage.
Andy Erdman is a journalist and television writer. He also has a Ph.D. in theatre and has taught at the college level. He has never worked as a topless dancer.
I can understand a woman being sincerely committed to the idea of not sleeping with a man unless she's engaged to be married. Really, I can respect that. (Though I personally don't think it's a good idea; imagine refusing to drive until a Maserati came along!)
Of course no one should settle for Mr. Okay with a smooth line. But that doesn't mean you should shy away from every guy who doesn't instantly proffer a marriage proposal. My advice to women who aren't sure if they should hold out or not: Find someone in whom you're adequately interested and get to know him. If you like him, and he likes you, things will more or less take care of themselves -- i.e., devirgination, ring giving, etc. I'm sure there's more than one Mr. Right out there, but you have to familiarize yourself with the crop in order to sort the proverbial wheat from the proverbial sleazebags.
As for whether a man would appreciate your remarkable self-control, I'm -- get ready for this -- not sure it really matters. Sure, some guy might think it's swell that you're a virgin, but he may think so for all the wrong reasons (e.g., archaic notions of "owning" one's woman, etc.).
If you're curious about and desirous of the act of nook-nook, then find someone you like and feel comfortable with, and get down. Don't worry so much about what the future Mr. Right or Mr. Okay might think. Your virginity is not a prize to present to someone else; it's yours to manage in your own best interest.
Andy Erdman is a journalist and television writer. He also has a Ph.D. in theatre and has taught at the college level. He has never worked as a topless dancer.
Sunday, April 24, 2005
Everyone needs a backup plan
I can't be myself there anymore. People I see, people I talk to everyday read it. What can I do? What can I say? Nothing, except I brought this upon myself. Now everyone knows it. Not my personal space anymore. And I hate it.
So that leads to here. My back up. Thank god for back ups. This is going to be me. All me. And only me.
So that leads to here. My back up. Thank god for back ups. This is going to be me. All me. And only me.
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