10 DEADLY Mistakes Guys Make During And After A Breakup

"10 DEADLY Mistakes Guys Make During And After A Breakup"
By Marius Panzarella. Personal comments are in italics.

Here's a list of what NOT to do if your girlfriend is breaking up with you.

1) Do NOT fight with her. Fighting ALWAYS creates tension and kills attraction. Fighting with a woman is useless. Even if you win the argument, you will still lose the war.

Marius got it damn right. You are trying to win her heart back, not making her despise you. The key here is mutual understanding. Give more and her heart is for you to take.

2) Do NOT try to use logic to show her why she should come back to you. Love is based on FEELINGS, not logic. No matter how brilliant your logic is, she's still going to leave you.

Yep, I totally agree.

3) Do NOT reassure your ex that you have "changed" so things will be "different from now on". It's like trying to bail water out of a sinking boat. It won't work. The hole is still there and your words are not going to mend it.

If someone can change for you, he\she can change for another person anytime. I believe being ourselves is very important. I personally will not 'want' anyone who is not himself. I won't change for anyone except myself, so I don't expect anyone to change for me. I think everyone should keep that in mind. You could loose you partner, your family and friends anytime, but you have yourself to keep.

4) Do NOT keep telling her you love her. She won't care. All a woman cares about is how much SHE loves YOU...not the other way around!

Yep, especially telling him\her how much you love them during\after the breakup. It's like saying it just to save the relationship. One will make the situation even worst saying it during\after the breakup. If you really love the person, save the ego and just say it while you both really are in love. If you didn't say it, it just means that you didn't love her anyway so why even say it after the breakup?

5) Do NOT beg her to come back. The more you beg, the more she will ignore you.

Not only will he\she ignore you, I think anyone in this position will feel 'stressed out' and annoyed.

6) Do NOT try to make her feel guilty about leaving you. (Examples: "I can't work without you." and "Don't break up with me during exam period...") It won't work. It will only make her DREAD being with you even more.

That's like a loser’s excuse don't you think? Exams or no exams, work or no work the relationship will end anyway. "I can't work without you." ? What a turn off. I don't want a useless person who can't survive on his own.

7) Do not act depressed so they will feel bad for you. Sympathy does NOT equal ATTRACTION!

Yes that's right. Unless you are a pet dog, then go act depressed. At least your ex will come back in pity and petting your head.

8) Do NOT talk to her friends to win their support. All she cares is how SHE fees about you. Even if her friends love you, they can't make her love you forever. External pressure never lasts longer. If your girl decides to stay with you, her motivation has to come from WITHIN.

It's worst if her friend doesn’t like you but you think they do.

9) Do NOT spend money on gifts and flowers for her. You can't buy her heart back with money.

You can't buy her heart back with money.

10) Do NOT push her into getting back with you. The more you push, the more she will PULL AWAY.

More is less. Less is more.