to have a heart to heart talk. He broke up with his (at that time) girlfriend for about 3 months already. The problem is, he can't let go of her.
He really reminded me of my ex. You see, we were once so close. We know of each others doings, actions and plans every god damn single day. We talk to each other without fail every bloody night before we actually go to sleep. We do things together, go on holidays together, have luncheons and dinner together and all the other stuff a normal couple would do. But then suddenly all this changes when we broke up.
No more nightly 'obligation' to call your other half. No need to 'report to the headmaster' (headmaster here refers to your other half) every action you are planning to do. No need to think of how your other half would feel if you wanted to hang out alone or with your own friends without his presence. Don't need to sacrifice time to teach your idiotic other half his work and definitely don't have to take any more responsibility of his stupidity and failure. Don't you feel much better with all that burden off your shoulders? It's no wonder why it didn't take me long to get on with my sweet life.
The big question is "Why can't your ex(es) do the same?" I don't think
Anyway, I don't think my buddy and my ex understand the meaning of a "breakup". I know were all very close to our other half during the relationship, but why can't they understand that it's over.
Sometimes they would just give really lame excuses like "we are not a couple anymore but we are still friends right?" Yes, I agree with that statement but does a friend try to get in your way when you are planning\going on a date\outing with another male acquaintance? A friend also doesn't call you and check on you. A friend doesn't call you every single bloody day. And definitely a friend doesn't invite you over to sleep in a same bed with him\her when you have a bed of your own! There's no ego thing going on here because it's just not something that a normal friend would do. He
This kind of ex(es) are just plain annoying. Why can't they understand? What can we all do to get them to fuck off?
I told my buddy what I thought. Yes, I was the bitch to tell him that he annoying the shit out of his ex. And if he don't know how to draw the line, his ex will just be like me. I'm not sorry that I told him that, I don't feel guilty by telling him that. It's the truth and he has to hear it from someone.
2 comments:
Like your thought process but then again, it is all about perceptions. In break-up cases, there will always be one party who wasn't expecting the break-up. If you were the one who got caught unawares, the ability to move on is much harder as you have not prepared yourself for it. The instigator, however, has had time to process the separation - or perhaps found someone already. While it is true that people have to move on after the break-up, the inability to move on cannot be construed as lacking confidence, being needy etc. When one's worldview is abruptly changed, the ability to grasp the new reality takes time. How much time? That depends on how ingrained that worldview is to the disheartened party. Perhaps it is naivete or immaturity...who is to say...each person's perception is different.
jc: I understand, and agree on what you say. I guess its all up to the individual
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